My boyfriend cheated on me and BLAMES ME?

I've been dating him on-and-off for ONE YEAR during the times he was single. Anyways, his recent "3 & 1/2 week" failed relationship next to his live-in girlfriend just ended recently. This be a previouis ex-girlfriend from last year by the way. Anyways, it only last 3 & 1/2 weeks. One week later he asked me to be his new official girlfriend. I live one hour away so it's kinda long distance relationship. I mistakenly agreed to be his girlfriend. He was spending all his time with his "friends," and on his days-off he would spend adjectives his time with his "friends" and not me (his girlfriend). One night he said something while he was drunk that made me discern like he was cheating. Something along the lines of "we cant * because my *** hurts." Well why would it hurt when you havent seen me surrounded by 3 days unless. Obviously this made me a little suspicious that he was cheating. I confornted him about it and he denied it. Then a couple days after that he was drinking margaritas and getting drunk with another girl while I called him. This made me intensely jealous. Why are you spending time with another girl getting drunk when you could spend it with your girlfriend? He claims she be a lesbian and I had nothing to worry around. Even if that were true, he had to know it would make me green. To make a long story short, he spent more time with me when we were not "official" than when I be his official girlfriend. After just 9 days of being "together" within our relationship (which is a joke because i only saw him 3 times in 9 days, and just after he finished spending the entire day with his friends... and drinking) I called him to enunciate we should be "just friends" because hes not spending any time with me. Not to mention he knew I be "in love with" him since October of last year. He said he "loved me" and when I asked him what exactly does that mean, he said he "loves me but wasnt contained by love with me." Anyways, we mutually agreed to be just friends (it wasnt a power thing where on earth i was breaking up with him) and less than a minute after the "break up" he sends me a course book message saying: "I cant lie. I cheated on you last dark." Then just 2 minutes later he sends another text message dictum: "Please dont hate me." I called him back now, but he didnt answer like a coward, so I left a message venting my disgust and proverb what he did was the lowest, scummiest thing ever. I cant believe people close to him exist that would intentionally hurt someone who cared about them so much." Especially when at the beginning of our relationship he go out of his way and PROMISED me that he would NEVER cheat on me. He was clear that he knew cheating be wrong, and that he would "break up with me first" before he ever had sex next to someone else. Did he really cheat, or did he say he cheated just to HURT me? I dont understand why he would hurt me close to that if it wasnt true because we agreeed to be friends and hang out later that night. Everything completed when he left me one last voicemail basically axiom the following: 1. I MADE HIM CHEAT because I did'nt trust him, and that lack of trust made him feel like crap. 2. I cant force him to want to hang down out with me, no matter how many nice things i bought or will buy for him. 3. All my accusation about him cheating all along during our relationship were false. He merely cheated for the first time last night. 4. I smothered him and was other on his a** ?? 5. I keep repeating the same thing, and nobody requests to hear it 6. He ended the voicemail saying "F.U." I find it ironic that his previous significant other forced him to delete his ex's from his myspace and never contact them while the ywere dating, and yet he have the audactiy to say i was untrusting? I spoiled the s*** out of him and treated him like a KING. That's why he said I cant formulate hi mwant to hang out with me no matter how abundant nice things I get him. But the nwhy ask me to be in a relationship in the first place? The he have the audacity to say I treated him like crap, and made hi mfeel like s***? If I treated him approaching crap, as he claims, then Id love to see what treating him well would be like... I surface like there's nothing that i could have, or should enjoy, done differently. Why would he ask to be my boyfriend in the first place if he felt that way? Why would he recognize to cheating AFTER I just broke up with him? Is it because he WANTED to hurt me, or is it because he wanted to clear his conscious. I didnt reckon he has a conscious. I mean, he could have only just kept it a secret. What was the point, after I technically broke up with him to be "only friends", to text me that he cheated? Why is he blaming me for his cheating, when he could have just broken up next to me... like he promised he would if he was going to cheat? Is this my fault that he cheated? Best Answer: He could own sociopathic tendencies. People who have such disregard for others feelings or want morals usually do. Not to mention he sounds like he is heading towards being a drunk. r>

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No it is not your failure! Everyone makes their own decisions and if they can't own up to it then they are basically really immature. It just sounds like he wasn't primed for a relationship. He doesn't understand that relationships take time and patience. He should of talk to you if there were problems instead of cheating on you like a tool. He seem like he didn't appreciate you at all so don't waste anymore time on him. Forget him, he's in recent times another mistake and you learn from your mistakes

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no it is not your fault, it was totally his choice you can not trade name someone cheat on you, and congrads on getting rid of him, thats what is really bugging him, he's realized what he lost so now he's out to punish you for dumping him, most guys would love to end the relationship similar to you did

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Hi! It's definitely NOT your fault that he cheated. He sounds like he have a very nasty streak and that he is playing with your emotion. No wonder you and his ex didn't trust him! What has he actually done to win your trust?!! Trust is earnt, after all! And he have not demonstrated that he is trustworthy! I have been in relationships similar to this myself. It sucks! I'd get away now while you can before you attain stuck with this guy! You sound so much nicer than him! Good luck with finding a nice guy who treats you near the respect that you deserve! :) x

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NO ITS NOT YOUR FAULT HE SOUNDS LIKE A LITTLE PUSS# BITCH JUST SAY F OFF THEN MOVE EM OUT YOUR LIFE.

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If you believe your boyfriend cheated on you with another women in the duration of your relationship, he will do it again. it is hard to bring back over it but you are going to have to. and it can be done. it is hard in the birth, you may feel sad and betrayed, then possibly very angry, but there will be a time when you will decide that ample is enough, then you may want to focus on yourself, maybe dance to the spa, start going to the gym, take up a hobby (if you don't have one), try taking a class (maybe ceramics, photography, independent films, etc.). try socializing more with different race. people from work, old friends, new friends... surmise of yourself, love yourself! http://www.myboyfriendcheated.com


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