My Gf have 2 miscarriages and is haunted by this...?

as her boyfriend what can i say to her that can offer her any kind of consolement. she feel really guilty about it. i try and say there be nothing you could have done and i say things close to this is part of gods plan for us but she blames herself for not being competent to keep it but nothing i ever say make her feel any better. im scared of saying the wrong things to her bc im not mr.sensitive adjectives the time. i tend to b very direct/blunt about things but i can afford to be on this issue. ladies if you can help me here i really really worth your opinions. she also had an abortion when she was 13. shes 19 in a minute and in the last year shes had both miscarriages near me
Best Answer: So she had two miscarriages and an abortion at age 13? (In your other questions just a couple mins. b4 this one.) Needs to swot safe sex. End of discussion. She's what, 16 at the most? I understand her having sex if she is 16, but seriously she desires to practice better safe sex. From your additional comment: Okay I apologize on the age comment and such. Do you want a baby? Are you if truth be told trying? But aside from that--you should take her to a counselor. Also a fertility clinic. There is no way to get over something approaching this. It's a process. It will always be in the back of her head--she can lone learn how to cope with it better.

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Question more or less Plan B?

If you really love her i would reccomend asking her if she even wants to try again and if she is haunted by the certainty that two children she could of born died inside her. (hell i would be terrified) if you really love her pay for her to go see a counselor. Thats what they are there for.

My disappeared breast is bigger than my right..

Maybe you two should find married. It's very old fashioned to say, but it might work.

Is it ordinary for sex to hurt rather...

OR, own safe sex, or maybe she needs a different guy (or sperm) to fertilize. OR you could give somebody a lift it easy on the sex, it's not the most important thing.

My extent plus the seaside equals disater. Help...

I am roughly to give you advice that will help any man who is not "mr. sensitive" when a girl is going through something really complicated, like miscarriages, molestation memories, deaths or other incredibly difficult things. I know from personal experience, as well as my scope in sociology that these are rock solid rules to help both her and you. 1. Say "I know I could never understand how much this hurts you, but I know that it's a full lot." (and NEVER say "I understand," unless you've actually be through the exact same thing). 2. Tell her you want to hear about it. Then listen, without trying to come up with a solution. Instead in recent times say "God that must have really hurt," or "that's so awful. How did that make you grain? What is that like?" 3. When she starts to blame herself - tell her, over and over, in a million different ways that it is not at adjectives her fault. And (here's the key) DON'T STOP. Girls will act like audible range these things doesn't matter (don't ask me why) but it matters more than anything in the world. It's impossible to tell apart as telling a woman she's pretty. Ever notice how we act close to you're dumb to say it, but we get mad if you don't? That's because, even when we appear to blow you stale, we're taking it in and it's helping. 4. Ask her what she would be telling another woman (try naming a friend of hers) in this situation. Would she be blaming that woman? This will relief her to realize that it's unfair to blame herself, because (no matter how low her self-esteem) she must admit that NO ONE deserves blame surrounded by a situation like hers. 5. Tell her that the pain will fade over time, but do NOT tell her that "everything will be okay," because it won't and she know that. She will never wake up one morning and find that this horrible thing has never happen to her. 6. Tell her you are here for her. Tell her you love helping her. Make her feel confident that you are not getting tired of hearing about it, because single by talking can she begin to heal.

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If you are trying to enjoy a baby, try again. Miscarriages happen. Its not the end of the world. If after another attempt fail, see a fertility clinic. She should not blame herself, unless of course she was drinking or smoking cigarrettes. Is she overweight or obese? eat strong?? Try to work on getting healthy before getting pregnant to reduce the risk of miscarriage again. Good luck!

Should I see a Doctor around this?

only hang in there. as undemanding as people may think it is to conceive and carry it really is a miracle that it happen. miscarriages are usually a blessing in disguise. could be genetic reasons who knows? apparently she doesn't own fertility issue because she can get pregnant. i had no problem becoming pregnant i had trouble benevolent past my 29th week. give it some more time. i had my second baby at 35. (a) 19y/o she should b more worried about what college to attend


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